Chuck Chapman No More Mr. Nice Guy Consultation
BASED ON THE WORK OF DR. ROBERT GLOVER'S "NO MORE MR. NICE GUY."
IS THIS YOU?
| You’re a really nice guy, maybe one of the nicest guys you know. Still, life is unsatisfying. Your relationships aren’t working and you don’t understand why. After all, You spend all your time making sure she’s happy, and yet she still doesn’t give you the attention that you need. What you really want is a problem-free, smooth life, yet life is often anything but smooth and problem-free. So you do what you’ve always done, hoping for a different result and you double down on being nice and trying to get her to treat you with more respect and love.
What’s wrong with being a Nice Guy?Nice Guy’s have three flawed beliefs that drive their behaviors. They believe that: 1. If I am a good guy, then everyone will love me and like me (and people I desire will desire me). 2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask. 3. If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.
The problem is that the Nice Guy believes he's keeping up his end of the bargain so why isn't everyone else? He e says to himself “HEY! I’m one of the nicest guys I know, so how come I always give so much more than I get? After all, what I want is to be appreciated, but all she says is that I’m not doing it right. She’s always mad and me and never wants to have more sex. When is it my turn to get what I really want? I just want someone to love me the way that I love them.”
His unmet needs fuel his resentments and anger and as a result, he is actually anything but nice! Nice Guys tend to give to get, avoid conflict, are passive-aggressive, withdraw when they are hurt, takes things personally, feel trapped, and tells “white lies” in order to hide anything they think others might find unacceptable. He feels like he’s living a double life. On the outside everything is fine, on the inside he’s suffering and has low-self esteem. As a result, he seeks approval from others, hides his perceived flaws and mistakes, puts other people’s needs and wants before his own. The Nice Guy gives up his personal power and plays the victim, he has very few, if any, guy friends and fails to live up to his full potential and seems to always be overlooked by others. |
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If this sounds like you, guess what? You’re not alone, and there is hope. It is possible to change your Nice Guy behaviors and start getting what you really want in life!
Hi, my name is Chuck Chapman and I’m a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy Coach. I work with guys just like you everyday helping them find ways to shed the guilt and shame and overcome the Nice Guy Behaviors that are holding them back.
Not going it alone is the most important thing in your recovery. Finding a coach, joining a group, or taking a course are the fastest ways to change your Nice Guy Behaviors. I’m passionate about what I do because seeing people grow, change and live from a place of authenticity is amazingly gratifying. My hope is that you walk away from our time together with tools that will help you have a better life.
My sole purpose and hopeful intentions in coaching is to help men live better lives through crushing their Nice Guy behaviors and becoming integrated.
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“Chuck is one of those men whose personal path and career passions are one and the same. Chuck is committed to his own personal growth and evolution as a man, and he brings that same energy and focuses on his work with men. If you are looking for a mentor, teacher, or coach who walks his talk, Chuck may be just the person you’ve been seeking." – Dr. Robert Glover Author No More Mr. Nice Guy
