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hope you are doing well and succeeding in working through your Nice Guy Syndrome. It's a process, for sure. I just returned from vacation and have been slammed trying to catch up. Unfortunately, busyness tends to knock me off my game. But, one of the best things about being a Nice Guy coach is I...
Way of the Superior Man Chapter 15 is titled “Stop hoping or your woman to get easier.”
In the chapter Deida says:
“Perhaps you have been working towards some financial goal, and finally you have succeeded. After years of effort, you creatively earned a...
M. Scott Peck said, "Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once, we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer ...
It's okay to fail; in fact, failure is a part of life. No one is perfect. I'll often remind myself that there is a reason that pencils come with erasers, and keyboards have a backspace button. It's what we do with our "failures," which is essential. Do we learn from it, or do we continue doing...
You've likely heard the stories of someone who had the corporate job, the beautiful house, fancy car, but then one day gave it all up to become an artist, a farmer, or teacher. They gave up what they had so they could get what they wanted. In every case, what the person wanted was this: PURPOSE.
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Nice Guys tend to live in their heads. They question everything and everyone. Nice Guys are so busy managing the emotions of everyone else that they lose themselves and forget to have fun.
Nice Guys are often miserable. When I work with men who have the Nice Guy Syndrome, I will often ask,...
Procrastination is the Nice Guys kryptonite. Procrastination weakens him like nothing else. "Why do today what you can put off until some other time" is the Nice Guys mantra. Subsequently, he is usually only moderately successful in his life. He thrives in mediocrity, plays it safe, and doesn't...
In the book No More Mr. Nice Guy, Dr. Glover poses this question: "Why would it seem rational for a person to try to eliminate or hide certain things about himself and try to become something different unless there was a significant compelling reason for him to do so? Why
do people try to change...
The Nice Guy thrives on external validation. The problem with this is that when we give someone the power to validate us, we inadvertently provide them with the ability to invalidate us. For this reason, the Nice Guy avoids conflict, and difficult situations like his life depends on it.
No one...
Nice Guys tend to have a deprivation mindset. This way of thinking started early in his development because the Nice Guy's needs were not met in a timely and generous way. As a child, the Nice Guy concluded that there "isn't enough for him," and developed a fear that his needs would always go...
Years ago, I was working with a client who's shoes were utterly worn out. It wasn't that he couldn't afford new shoes; he did quite well for himself. Still, his shoes looked like he found them in a dumpster, badly beaten and soles starting to coming apart from the upper. The next week he came in;...
"You break it; you buy it," read the sign in the store window. I was five or six when I first saw a sign like this and about to go into an antique store with my dad. "Hands in your pockets," he said as we crossed the threshold into the store of many curiosities. Tempting as it was, I knew I had 5...
