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Rule Number Thirteen for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome

30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Feb 07, 2020

Nice Guys want a Smooth, problem-free, happy life. Nice guys believe that if they follow the rules, life will no longer give them problems. They've been taught since childhood that A plus B equals Z. 

However, when he fails to get the results he wants, instead of doing something different, the Nice Guy assumes there is something wrong with himself. He never considers that the rule simply doesn't work. Instead, he continues to try with the futility to make the equation work. Then when the rule doesn't work, he hides the results as not to bring attention to his perceived flaw. 

Dr. Glover writes that an integrated man "measures rules by only one standard: Do they work?"

If a rule doesn't work, then you should change it. Being an adult means you are responsible for your actions, therefore if you are following a rule that doesn't work, you are responsible for changing it and creating a new rule that does work. 

A Nice Guy will run off a cliff with all the other lemmings rather than forge his own path. An integrated man sets his own course making adjustments along the way to get to where he needs to go. 

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