M. Scott Peck said, "Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once, we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult."
Nice Guys make their lives more difficult by thinking they can control what happens to them. When things don't' go their way, when life becomes difficult, they double down on trying to control their circumstances. The result is always the same...more suffering.
What makes life difficult is our belief that somehow we are in control. When we struggle against reality, we suffer. When we learn to love what life throws our way, we thrive.
The integrated man knows that control is an illusion and that the way of the warrior is to let go. When we accept reality, we lean into the lesson the Universe has for us, learn from it, and continue on our path towards becoming the best version of ourselves. As Byron Katie said, "When we stop opposing reality, the action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless."
When we understand that life is not happening to us, but for us, we can let go. We can let go of our control and rest in the comfort that all things work together for good. Learn to let go; let life happen.
I hope you have enjoyed the 30 Rules for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome for the past 30 days. It has been an honor to have served.