Rule Number Twelve for Overcoming the Nice Guy SyndromeFeb 06, 2020
Dr. Glover points out that one of the typical Nice Guy behaviors is hiding his mistakes. When a Nice Guy fails to do something, usually his wife, partner, or boss, rather than owning up to his failing, he will put up a smokescreen to hide his mistake. The nice guy will make excuses to try to explain away why he did or didn't do that, which he was supposed to do.
When the Nice Guy fails to own up to his actions, unconsciously, he begins to compile his shame. He now has more evidence to support his internalized belief that he is not okay just as he is. It's a feedback loop of screw up, make an excuse, become resentful, feel ashamed.
Rember that "if you do what you've always done, you will get what you've always got." So the next time you find yourself wanting to make an excuse, do something different. Instead of making an excuse, be an integrated man by taking responsibility, and the consequences for your actions.
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