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Rule Number Eight for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Feb 02, 2020

Nice Guys have two problems: 1. They don't know what they want. 2. If
they do know what they want, they have a difficult time asking for it.

Part of the reason is that as small children, their needs did not get
met in a timely and judicious way. As a result, they learned two
things: 1. It's better...

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Rule Number Seven for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Feb 01, 2020

We all have needs: physical needs, emotional needs, and spiritual needs. When our needs are met, we feel good; when they are unmet, we feel pain. For example: Physically, when my stomach hurts, the pain is telling me that I need to eat...or take an antacid. Emotionally, when I have pain (for...

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Rule Number Six for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 31, 2020

You've probably heard the quote: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." Nice Guys tend to have a difficult time learning this lesson. Instead, we're like dogs chasing its tail, spinning around and around. This behavior keeps us feeling...

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Rule Number Five for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 30, 2020

There are two perspectives to this rule. The first is more obvious: Always do your best and give 100% effort.

The second less prominent part of the rule is "Finish the job." Nice Guys tend to half-ass things, start something but never finish it. Nice Guys are great at getting 50% through what...

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Rule Number Four for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 29, 2020

One of the biggest things that hold Nice Guys back is the fear that they aren't enough. This fear creates a deep-seated doubt in their ability to handle life. Many guys won't admit to this, but after working with hundreds of Nice Guys, what I know is this; at some level, we're all terrified of...

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Rule Number Three for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 28, 2020

Rule number three trips up a lot of Nice Guys. Our parents,  teachers, and pastors told us that No one likes a selfish person. We attributed putting our needs first as an act of selfishness.

But after a lifetime of putting yourself second, a toxic belief starts to creep in "When's my turn?"...

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Rule Number Two for Overcoming The Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 27, 2020
Ever have a cup of hot cocoa or warm milk that has cooled off after sitting for a bit? There's this thin membrane-like skin thing that grows on top like a rubber sheet. Its scientific name is "Malai. It's a thick yellowish layer of fat and coagulated proteins that form this sticky film across the...
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Rule Number One for Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome 30 rules for overcoming the nice guy syndrome Jan 26, 2020

"Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true." - Bodhi


G. Gordon Liddy was a badass. A former FBI agent he was the chief operative in the Watergate Breakin. He was part of an elite covert group that served the White House during the Nixon administration. One...

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Blind Men And The Elephant elephant wednesday wisdom Jan 22, 2020

Years ago I heard the story of the Blind Men and The Elephant. It is a great metaphor for understanding our blind spots. It goes like this: 

"A group of blind men heard that a strange animal, called an elephant, had been brought to the town, but none of them were aware of its shape and...

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